When Life Has You Up Against The Ropes

Oh boy… I tell you when life has you up against the ropes it seems like there is no way out.

It’s like, anything that could go wrong goes wrong; kids want to act up, finances are at their lowest, relationships are too dysfunctional, vehicle breaks down, health begins to deteriorate, then here comes good ole depression to top it off. Now not only are you against the ropes but you’re to depress to fight, to move, to block or even to duck… you just wallow in this misery. You can not understand how or why you’ve ended up in this predicament, especially when you know better than to have put up and allowed this mess to happen in the first place (again for some of us). So… right about now this depression is really taking its toll on you and not only does life have you against the ropes and pounding you harder than ever before, you are now helping it. You’re beating yourself up and you’ve stopped looking for a way to escape this beat down. You are beginning to give up, to accept what the world has decided for you and to allow your dreams to perish.

LISTEN UP AND LET ME BE THE FIRST TO TELL YOU… no matter, no how, no why, no what you have done in the past (the second that just passed it’s over, done and gone; anything that happened before this moment is your past) you DESERVE all, I say ALL the wonders life has to offer. Don’t allow anyone to hold you to whom you were in the past. What is of upmost importance, is who you are NOW and who you will grow into. I know you are probably saying “yeah, yeah, yeah” everyone says that; it’s so cliché’; you don’t know my story, I don’t deserve better.  However… this “cliché'” is the truth, think about it for a moment; in order to grow we have to endure some things throughout our lives. Your walk is no different than mines; technically anyways; I have done somethings and have been a person in the past (any time before this moment) that I would not necessarily do or be now, or in my future. You see, those things do not nor will I allow them to define who I am today. Yes… I did those things, yes… I was that girl; however my dear at this time, in this moment I am Dimetra the woman of my present, not the girl of my past.

Although the specifics of our hardships my not be the same but the rules apply across the board. Just as I had to discover and develop the love for myself in order to want better, to not only want it but strive for it, and to have accomplished it. This process was not achieved overnight for me and it will not for you either. However, I can say that as long as you do the work it will be accomplished. I am not where I use to be, and am not where I want to be but I can say I have discovered my self-love and I am developing and improving upon it every day; by using defined actionable steps; I am a continued work in progress.

You’ve got this… muster up some strength and remember your why. Why you got in the ring in the first place. Or maybe you never defined your why, if not, the time is now… you’ve waited long enough. There’s no more time to waist!! Get up off them ropes and fight back; Identify your goals, create a plan and write it down, get an accountability partner, and CRUSH IT!!

Yes you are WORTHY, yes you are GREAT and YES you DESERVE it all!

 

#maketodaygreat #youseethewaymyfaithissetup #lovethyself

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Stop Watering Yourself Down

Some of us water ourselves down everyday and don’t even realize it; I too have been guilty of this for years. We tend to do this out of ignorance to who we are and what we deserve. Once I had began the journey to seek self understanding and awareness, I was then able to see the detriment I had been inflicting on myself; I couldn’t put the blame on anyone else. By not understanding who I was, I couldn’t possibly know what I was capable of achieving; which was the fulfillment life had to offer. I had dreams and vision but wasn’t confident enough in myself to believe that I could bring them into existence, to make them a reality for me and my family.

If you too need to put an end to the bad habit of watering yourself down, start first by releasing yourself from the destructive behaviors and relationships. Get some self understanding and awareness , by doing this you will began to learn and know what you want and deserve. The change in my mindset was essential to my process; change your self-talk, instead of telling yourself that it will not work, claim it and say it will work. Stop making excuses of why not to and make affirmations as to why you should and how your goals will come to be.

Stop being your own worse enemy; leave the “situationships” that feeds more water to your self dilution. Yes, I am going to do there about these situations; we put ourselves in them and wonder why we don’t have any lingering feelings of fulfillment. If your are in a situationship and your the side piece (male/female), let me be the 1st to tell you, you have been watering yourself down. If you don’t believe me then think about this, what does he/she actually bring to your table beside sex, and a date here and there? If their parents aren’t ratchet, have you met them? Do you spend the holidays with them and their family? (parents, grand parents, children, etc..) If they pass away will you be listed in the obituary or ride in the family car? You see you deserve to be with a person who can love you publicly, the way you deserve and desire to be loved. If you can not be #1 then they don’t deserve you, respect yourself, stop settling and playing 2nd best. Know who you are and that you are worthy, start teaching people how to treat you, when you allow yourself to be the side peace you show them that you are less than and cool with being the 2nd grade pick.

Don’t clap too quickly “main chick/bae/wifey”; you too may need to check your own dilution. If your significant other has a side piece, not putting in time with you and the family, not helping with the daily upkeep of the home and relationship then you are a bit watery as well. When we have devoted ourselves to someone and they don’t have enough respect to devote the same into us and we are allowing it just so we can say we’re in a relationship we don’t feel fulfillment. If you know about the side person, and don’t care because your bills are paid and you  know come first; then you are a bit watery as well. You see the moment she/he decided to step outside of your relationship you were no longer considered #1, they now considers themselves #1.

The goal of this ramble is not to make anyone feel bad about any decision they may have made, but more to help you see things from a different perspective on per these situations. Stop Watering yourself down for the benefits of others, the time is now to pursue your vision and dreams and to make them your reality.

 

#youseethewaymyfaithissetup #maketodaygreat #lovethyself

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Trust The Process

As the day approached for me to begin this new venture as an employee I began to feel depressed; as a child of God with purpose and an entrepreneur, re-entering into corporate America is not as it is for some, a moment for me to congratulate. Each day that I go without walking in my purpose, a part of me dies a little more with every second that passes. Please don’t get me wrong, I am thankful for the opportunity and will make the best out of it, I will always put my best foot forward in whatever I do. However, as I sit back and evaluate my circumstances I begin to wonder what I am or have incorrectly done in the eyes of God. I have been faithful, I have done the work, I have written it down and will help people in all that is to come. Then, I relate back to something I read in the book “Improving Your Serve” by Charles Swindoll. One of the entries was about a guy that had been asking God to bless him with a specific ministry, when his family could no longer go without his financial contributions he had to seek employment. He encountered a dreadful unforeseen situation while on duty which rendered an end result that lead to him being blessed with the ministry he had been praying for. You see God had to be sure that he was truly ready for what he had been asking for; this encounter not only tested is commitment to this specific ministry, it also tested his faith in God.

After reflecting on this I no longer feel that I have incorrectly done or not done something; God maybe be testing and setting me up, like no one else can for what I’ve been asking for. Have you ever been afraid to win, to walk in your purpose? I’ll be the first to admit that I have questioned my own readiness and ability to perform like “He” needs me to, and impact lives as I’m purposed. Not because I don’t believe in myself, but it is surely a different type of pressure to be required to perform up to “God’s” expectations than it is to perform up to mankind’s. I am mindful and fully aware that “He” does not call the qualified, he qualifies the called.

With all that being said, I will continue to trust in “God” and “His” process, and lean on him and not on my own understanding. I’ll be waiting in anticipation of what he has for me, until time meets purpose.

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